March 11, 2010
I just got back in from having seen an old friend for coffee. A friend who, frankly, manages for a couple of instants to drain me from any kind of energy and hope for the coming future. You know those friends whom you've known for a long long time, and who you somewhere along the road kind of grew apart from? But it's just hard to communicate that that's what happened?
Well, I've known this friend for many years, and it's not without a little bit of guilt that I'm writing this. But to be honest, I'm not taking this anymore. There has got to be something wrong when you leave a coffee shop feeling robbed of something (other than money for an overpriced cappuccino), and just want and need to talk to someone dear immediately. I don't want to have those kinds of feelings about people I call friends anymore. (And yes, I've tried to communicate to her how I feel about this, but fruitless attempts, all of them.)
Nowadays, I feel like we're always encouraged to change, grow and improve ourselves. I'm all for this, and I love that it's become a pretty integrated part of our western society, the ability to change and move on. Toss off shoes that all of a sudden got too small. The only thing is that no one talks about how difficult it seems to be for the people around us to accept this change. Or rather, it's a real truth teller when you change to see who your real supporters are and notice those who aren't (hopefully, they're not that many). I'm always a bit baffled when I'm forced to accept that no, this friend is not supporting me or my growth. The real strength lies in the ability to say nope, don't have time for this anymore.
So, much like Robert Plant sings about spring cleaning for the May queen, I'm having one too.
And truth be told, it feels great.
I'm curious, do you have an experience similar to this one?
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Posted by Hermione at 4:22 PM